You should go and Love yourself

You should go and Love yourself...Yea I'm referencing Bieber on this lovely Valentine's Day! haha 

Love. Bet you're surprised that I, of all people, am gonna talk about Love, being as I've been single for quite some time now. So what would I know right!? 

Well, a few years ago I didn't even like myself, let alone love myself. I was always blaming others and playing the victim - it was me against the world and I just wasn't lucky enough to have found love. In fact, I could've sworn I was dating only the worst dudes on the planet because that's all I could attract lol At least I can laugh about all my dating stories; between a couple of my friends & I, we could def right a book! 

After every breakup, people would tell me to focus on myself for a while and when you least expect it a good guy will come along. So I powered through work, steadily worked out around five days a week and made sure to make every event/occasion of family and friends. 

I stayed busy and involved in everything ...but I didn't spend enough downtime with myself. At one point my therapist suggested looking myself in the mirror and saying "I love you" - umm weird. lol

I haven't done that, but what I have done is I've taken a good hard look at myself and my life. What do I enjoy and what can I let go, where am I spending all of my time and what fills up my soul. Being more mindful and present has helped me to grow and after all these years of crying "woah is me" and "where the hell are all the gentlemen" lol, I finally love myself and truly believe my soulmate is on his way.

I believe, whether you're single, dating or married, loving yourself is so important. It makes you whole and allows you to share & spread love with your partner. So I've appreciated these years of being single, because I now know what kind of partner I'm going to be able to be, and the amount of love I'm ready to share.

Happy Valentine's Day to you & yours, and I hope you remember to go and Love yourself too!